Photo by Frankie Cordoba on Unsplash As a marriage and family therapist, I often see couples when their relationship has reached a point of reckoning. Someone is ready to leave. There have been months — sometimes years, sometimes decades — of blowups and apologies without real resolve or repair. And finally, someone is done with the cycle. But here’s what I wish more couples knew before that moment arrives: you don’t have to wait for a reckoning to get intentional about your

Photo by Vitolda Klein on Unsplash A young man — let’s call him Mark — sits across from me in my office. He has booked a session because, as he says, “it’s the second time in 6 months that someone has said to me: you’re nice, but you don’t seem ready for a long-term relationship.” “I don’t get it,” he continues, “I mean, I’m not a bad looking guy. My mom thinks I’m a great catch. I have a solid job. The guys in my pickleball league think I’m hilarious. My niece and nephew li

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Photo by Bethany Legg for Unsplash “Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.” — Albert Einstein There’s a...